When it comes to causing marriage break-ups, affairs and infidelity are way down the list.
What really gets couples racing for the divorce courts are seemingly mundane and trivial matters – such as whose turn it is to do the washing up or sweep the floor.
Research by law firm Gateley revealed that 70% of marriage failures occur when couples can’t agree on how to share the household chores or how to spend their monthly finances. Infidelity is only given as a reason in 20% of divorce cases.
Other domestic issues that come between married couples are decisions about where they will live and whether or not to have children.
Married couple need to be more businesslike
Gateley say that while it is romantic to walk down the aisle and get married, many couples do so without discussing these ‘fundamental decisions’ beforehand. They advise couples to follow examples from the business world when tying the knot.
They say that couples getting married should think like two businesses during a merger to ensure that both parties are clear on the way to move forward.
Elizabeth Hassall, a partner and head of the family division at Gateley, said; “Yes it’s romantic to be walking down the aisle, but the realities of a ‘merger’ are a little more cut and dry, It is often the case that people simply don’t think about it, or feel comfortable discussing life choices, but what is apparent is that going into a marriage blind could be a recipe for disaster.”
“Successful long-term relationships rely on couples sharing similar goals, values, and ambitions. It’s important to know where your prospective partner stands on big issues like children, finances and career aspirations before making a lifetime commitment. It may seem unromantic, but figuring out these practicalities now is one of the best ways to avoid future heartache.”
The good news for married couples is that the divorce rate has only risen by 2% over the last four years, according to figures released by the Ministry of Justice.